I always used to think "The Who" was important.
Who do I want to experience this for the first time with? Who am I going out with? Who am I going to prom with? Who am I looking forward to calling this morning? Who am I religiously checking my phone for to see if they texted me yet?
Who, who, who.
I'm sure you've heard the expression: "it's not what you're doing - it's who you're with, that make or break a situation."
While that may be true, and it's nice to be in good company... being alone is a beautiful blessing - even though it may feel like a burden or a blessing in disguise sometimes.
We live in a world where many people focus on the opinions of others, and base their emotions and life around that. If my parents aren't proud of my achievements, I feel invalidated. If my boyfriend doesn't answer my calls, it must be because he's ignoring me because he's mad at me. If someone
But let me ask you something : why do you insist on placing your value on something so frivolous as someone's opinion? There are days where my hungry opinions scream . It depends on my mood and set of mind that day.
Trust me. I'm a "hopeless romantic" as the cliched phrase says. As romantic as I come. This means I have a whole bucket list filled with things I haven't done - go ziplining in Costa Rica, jump out of a plane, ride an elephant, go backpacking through Europe (El Camino) .. all while holding a significant other's hand.
It's not so much that I don't believe I'm fully incapable of doing the things I want in my life, and going to the destinations I want alone (and braving the trials and strains and last minute fears by myself), but rather that I feel all these things will be more enjoyable with someone by my side. Realistically - will they? Perhaps. But it doesn't mean we all need to wait for the "perfect time" or the "perfect boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife" to do so.
Some of the best moments of my life I have had alone. On hikes, or traveling the world. I once took a train to Napoli from Urbino, Italy. I ate pizza, met new people, took a speed boat to Capri, and discovered the ancient ruins of Pompeii. All by my lonesome. And they didn't lose any of their charm or beauty because I didn't have anyone else to share them with. The sense of awe and of magesty was still very much present.
So, friends -- I encourage you to do the things on your bucket list - whether someone is there to hold your hand along the way or not. Whether you're in a relationship or your single. Travel the world and hike through the valleys so you can get to the hills and peaks and overlook everything ahead of you.
A warning, though. You may be seduced by the solitude enough to keep it around for awhile longer.
xo,
Nicole
Who do I want to experience this for the first time with? Who am I going out with? Who am I going to prom with? Who am I looking forward to calling this morning? Who am I religiously checking my phone for to see if they texted me yet?
Who, who, who.
I'm sure you've heard the expression: "it's not what you're doing - it's who you're with, that make or break a situation."
While that may be true, and it's nice to be in good company... being alone is a beautiful blessing - even though it may feel like a burden or a blessing in disguise sometimes.
We live in a world where many people focus on the opinions of others, and base their emotions and life around that. If my parents aren't proud of my achievements, I feel invalidated. If my boyfriend doesn't answer my calls, it must be because he's ignoring me because he's mad at me. If someone
But let me ask you something : why do you insist on placing your value on something so frivolous as someone's opinion? There are days where my hungry opinions scream . It depends on my mood and set of mind that day.
Trust me. I'm a "hopeless romantic" as the cliched phrase says. As romantic as I come. This means I have a whole bucket list filled with things I haven't done - go ziplining in Costa Rica, jump out of a plane, ride an elephant, go backpacking through Europe (El Camino) .. all while holding a significant other's hand.
It's not so much that I don't believe I'm fully incapable of doing the things I want in my life, and going to the destinations I want alone (and braving the trials and strains and last minute fears by myself), but rather that I feel all these things will be more enjoyable with someone by my side. Realistically - will they? Perhaps. But it doesn't mean we all need to wait for the "perfect time" or the "perfect boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife" to do so.
Some of the best moments of my life I have had alone. On hikes, or traveling the world. I once took a train to Napoli from Urbino, Italy. I ate pizza, met new people, took a speed boat to Capri, and discovered the ancient ruins of Pompeii. All by my lonesome. And they didn't lose any of their charm or beauty because I didn't have anyone else to share them with. The sense of awe and of magesty was still very much present.
So, friends -- I encourage you to do the things on your bucket list - whether someone is there to hold your hand along the way or not. Whether you're in a relationship or your single. Travel the world and hike through the valleys so you can get to the hills and peaks and overlook everything ahead of you.
A warning, though. You may be seduced by the solitude enough to keep it around for awhile longer.
xo,
Nicole
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